tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20495687376928954502024-03-13T16:41:42.190-04:00New Vision Counseling CenterNew Vision Counseling Center, LLC is a group private practice offering affordable mental health counseling services to children, adolescents, and young adults. Services include individual, group and family therapy. We have locations in Douglasville, GA and Smyrna GA. Workshops and seminars on various topics are also offered to the community at large as well as those in the profession.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04959684197599754239noreply@blogger.comBlogger61125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2049568737692895450.post-86337349426960249932016-06-01T08:00:00.000-04:002016-06-01T08:00:01.933-04:00Is Couples Therapy Helpful?<strong>Is Couples Therapy Helpful? </strong>I get this question a lot. Many of my clients feel their relationship is beyond repair. They wonder if therapy can help repair the damage. This question can be answered in two parts.<br />
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Couples therapy can be helpful if:</div>
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<li>The couple mutually wants to save their marriage</li>
<li>The couple is willing to change if need be</li>
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Couples therapy is not helpful if:</div>
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<li>The couple does not mutually want to save their marriage</li>
<li>The couple is unwilling to change if need be</li>
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To put things into perspective here are some <a href="http://guidedoc.com/does-marriage-counseling-work-statistics-facts" target="_blank"><span style="color: #0072c6;">statistics</span></a> about the impact couples therapy can have.</div>
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<li> 98% of people surveyed said they received good or excellent couples therapy</li>
<li> 97% of those surveyed said they got the help they needed</li>
<li>93% of those surveyed said they got the tools they needed after working with a couples therapist</li>
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<li> 25% of people surveyed reported their marriage was worse 2 years after couples therapy</li>
<li>38% of people surveyed reported their marriage ended in divorce 4 years after couples therapy</li>
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Now let's put this in perspective.</div>
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Couples therapy is helpful whether the marriage last or ends in divorce. And here's why...</div>
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<li>Couples therapy helps identify the root causes of friction in the marriage</li>
<li>Couples therapy gives a safe place to talk truthfully</li>
<li>Couples therapy gives the necessary tools to make the marriage work</li>
<li>Couples therapy shines a light on any incompatibility in the relationship</li>
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The last bullet point is extremely vital when asking the question, <strong>is couples therapy helpful</strong>.</div>
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People assume if they go to therapy and the marriage ends in divorce, then couples therapy was not helpful. But look at it this way. Couples therapy gives you the insight and the courage to know when to let go. Then you can begin to find the happiness that you have been lacking. Even if the marriage ends in divorce, if there are children from the union, couples and family therapy can help the children with the transition. This can help the divorce from becoming a bitter battle of hurt.</div>
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I would have to say yes. Couples therapy can open up the lines of communication that were once closed. They can help a couple remember why they fell in love in the fist place. It can also help couples heal from any wounds or misdeeds that has happened before or during the marriage. It can also help the couples amicably part ways if they decide.</div>
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If you are in need of couples therapy, contact <a href="http://www.newvisioncounselingcenter.com/" target="_blank">New Vision Counseling Center</a> to set up an appointment.</div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04959684197599754239noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2049568737692895450.post-56033050317467307722016-05-30T08:00:00.000-04:002016-05-30T08:00:29.004-04:00Treatment For Body Dysmorphic Disorder<div style="color: #333333; font-family: Georgia,"Times New Roman","Bitstream Charter",Times,serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px;">
<span>Last year actor Reid Ewing, Dylan on ABC’s hit show Modern Family, opened up about his mental health issues. He also shared how his <strong>treatment for Body Dysmorphic Disorder</strong> restored his health, changing his outlook on his body image.</span></div>
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<span>In an article he wrote to the </span><a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/reid-ewing/reid-ewing-body-dysmorphia_b_8593076.html" target="_blank"><span><span style="color: #0072c6;">Huffington Post </span></span></a><span>he explained how his mental illness begin. He talked about how his mental health issues started when he was a young child. His insecurities resulted in the destructive behavior of cutting. He even admitted to fantasizing about getting into a car accident just to have plastic surgery.</span></div>
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<span>Eventually Ewing was diagnosed with Body Dysmorphic Disorder</span><span>. This disorder causes the person affected to become obsessed with the way they look.</span></div>
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<span>Because of his obsession Ewing underwent multiple surgeries trying to become the perfect image of himself. He had loving and supportive parents but he couldn’t get a handle on his body image obsession or his depression. He began to have suicidal thoughts and hit rock bottom.</span></div>
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<span>Only after seeking <strong>treatment for Body Dysmorphic Disorder</strong> was Ewing able to restore his health.</span></div>
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<span>Are you struggling with Body Dysmorphic Disorder? If you are, there is treatment available. You do not have to struggle alone. Having a mental health issue is nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about.</span></div>
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<span>In fact</span><span> 13 to 20 percent of children living in the U.S. experience a mental health disorder in any given year, according to the Center for Disease Control and Prevention.</span></div>
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<span>The good news is that there is <strong>treatment for Body Dysmorphic Disorder</strong>.</span></div>
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<li><span>Cognitive Behavioral Therapy</span><ul>
<li><span>Helps you become aware of how negative thoughts, emotional reactions and behaviors cause problems over time.</span></li>
<li><span>Challenges negative thoughts about your body image. Teaches a more flexible and realistic way of thinking.</span></li>
<li><span>Helps you discover alternative ways to handle urges that cause you to constantly look in the mirror or seek reassurance</span></li>
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<li><span>Medication Therapy</span><ul>
<li><span>Selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs)</span></li>
<li><span>Other medications</span><span> </span></li>
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<span>If you are struggling with Body Dysmorphic Disorder you do not have to struggle alone. Treatment for Body Dysmorphic Disorder is available if you are ready to receive it.</span></div>
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<span>Contact<a href="http://www.newvisioncounselingcenter.com/" target="_blank"> New Vision Counseling Center</a> to schedule an appointment.</span></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04959684197599754239noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2049568737692895450.post-51520230054821087582016-05-23T08:00:00.000-04:002016-05-23T08:00:42.066-04:00What Are The Most Common Mental Disorders Affecting Young Adults?<span id="ecxdocs-internal-guid-617bdc8b-b6a1-1876-2190-a9dd51daef2a"><div dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38;">
<span style="background-color: transparent; font-family: Arial; font-size: 17.33px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">I am glad that this month is Mental Health month. I am glad that mental health is finally getting the exposure it so desperately needs. The mental health industry has now been able to determine what are the most common mental disorders affecting young adults. </span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; font-family: Arial; font-size: 17.33px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Because of an increase in mass murders involving young adults, the mental health industry’s major focus has recently shifted to mental disorders in young adults. Often times we can attribute someone’s behavior based on things that happened in their youth. Or behaviors in their youth could indicate they have a mental disorder. The best way to address mental illness is early detection. Because mental health was not seen as an important or relevant factor we have missed opportunities to help those that needed our help. Moving forward I hope we can turn this around. </span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; font-family: Arial; font-size: 17.33px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">In Uk’s The Guardian, they wrote an </span><a href="http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2016/may/14/teenage-mental-health-crisis-doctors" style="text-decoration: none;" target="_blank"><span style="background-color: transparent; font-family: Arial; font-size: 17.33px; text-decoration: underline; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="color: #0072c6;">article</span></span></a><span style="background-color: transparent; font-family: Arial; font-size: 17.33px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"> about the lack of urgency in treating young adults with mental disorders. It seems that doctors there fear 1 in 10 child that seeks help for mental disorders could be harmed while waiting for specialist treatment.</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; font-family: Arial; font-size: 17.33px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">This means that young adults that ask for help will have to wait for an undetermined amount of time before receiving treatment. This is something we need to do better worldwide. It makes no sense to diagnose a child and then stall their access to treatment.</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; font-family: Arial; font-size: 17.33px; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Common mental disorders plaguing young adults are:</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; font-family: Arial; font-size: 17.33px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Click </span><a href="http://www.dualdiagnosis.org/mental-health-and-addiction/common-young-adults/" style="text-decoration: none;" target="_blank"><span style="background-color: transparent; font-family: Arial; font-size: 17.33px; text-decoration: underline; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="color: #0072c6;">here</span></span></a><span style="background-color: transparent; font-family: Arial; font-size: 17.33px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"> to read more in depth explanation about these disorders.</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; font-family: Arial; font-size: 17.33px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Teenagers go through so much that it is overwhelming to them. They don’t know how to express their feelings. They depend on the adults in their life to help them get through it.</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; font-family: Arial; font-size: 17.33px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">You can help your teenagers by getting them treatment as soon as possible. At New Vision Counseling Center, we specialize in these disorders and would be honored to assist you . As the parent it is important to pay close attention to your child’s behavior. Look for any signs of extreme personality changes. This can sometimes indicate your child is experiencing one of these common mental disorders. </span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; font-family: Arial; font-size: 17.33px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Contact <a href="http://www.newvisioncounselingcenter.com/" target="_blank">New Vision Counseling Center</a> to schedule an appointment. </span></div>
</span><br />Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04959684197599754239noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2049568737692895450.post-19429537263314137392016-05-19T08:00:00.000-04:002016-05-19T08:00:02.605-04:00Do I need A Counselor Or Psychiatrist Many people ask me, "Do I Need A Counselor Or Psychiatrist?". This question is very common. When you realize that you need help, it is often confusing trying to decide which professional can best help you. So let me try to break it down for you so that you can make an informed decision.<br />
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What Is A Psychiatrist?</h4>
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According to <a href="https://www.psychiatry.org/patients-families/what-is-psychiatry" target="_blank"><span style="color: #0072c6;">psychiatry.org</span></a>, psychiatry is the branch of medicine focused on the diagnosis, treatment and prevention of mental, emotional and behavioral disorders. A psychiatrist is a medical doctor (an M.D. or D.O.) who specializes in mental health, including substance use disorders. Psychiatrists are qualified to assess both the mental and physical aspects of psychological problems.</div>
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Some common problems psychiatrists deal with are panic attacks, frightening hallucinations, thoughts of suicide, or hearing "voices." Or they may be more long-term, such as feelings of sadness, hopelessness, or anxiousness that never seem to lift or problems functioning, causing everyday life to feel distorted or out of control.</div>
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What Is A Counselor?</h4>
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According to <a href="https://www.counseling.org/aca-community/learn-about-counseling/what-is-counseling/overview" target="_blank"><span style="color: #0072c6;">counseling.org</span></a>, professional counseling is a professional relationship that empowers diverse individuals, families, and groups to accomplish mental health, wellness, education, and career goals. Counselors work with clients on strategies to overcome obstacles and personal challenges that they are facing.</div>
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Which profession is better for your needs?</h4>
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<li>If you have an issue that could benefit from medication, then you should see a psychiatrist.<br /> Psychiatrists have the ability to write prescriptions. In the case of someone with bipolar disorder, for example, the drug Lithium can help to balance out the different extreme responses caused by bipolar disorder.</li>
<li>If you are stressed about work or your home life, then you should see a counselor.<br /> A counselor can help identify your stress triggers. Once your triggers have been identified the counselor can help you come up with ways to combat your stress so it doesn't get out of hand.</li>
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If you are on medication prescribed by your psychiatrist for depression, you may also need counseling to determine the root cause of your depression. The medication helps to restore chemical balance while the counseling helps to restore emotional balance.</div>
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Whatever your reasons for therapy, it could involve the treatment from both practitioners. Sometimes just as it takes a village to raise a child, it also takes a team of professionals to help you live a productive life.</div>
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Considering counseling?</div>
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Contact <a href="http://www.newvisioncounselingcenter.com/" target="_blank">New Vision Counseling Center</a> to schedule an appointment.</div>
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If during our session it is determined that you could also benefit from a psychiatric care, we have colleagues to whom we can refer you. The most important thing to remember is that if you need help, seek it.</div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04959684197599754239noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2049568737692895450.post-16392398496628562542016-05-16T14:11:00.000-04:002016-05-16T14:11:40.965-04:00What Causes Suicidal Thoughts In Teenagers?<br />
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<span lang="EN" style="color: #333333; font-family: "georgia" , serif; font-size: 12pt;">Surviving parents and friends often asks this question. They wonder if
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<span lang="EN" style="color: #333333; font-family: "georgia" , serif; font-size: 12pt;">This was the case for the mom of 17 year old Brittany Corcoran.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span lang="EN" style="color: #333333; font-family: "georgia" , serif; font-size: 12pt;">Brittany had every reason to live. She had loving parents. She was a
beautiful young woman. She had an active social life. She was a star hockey
goalie for her high school. She was a mentor to others. On the outside she
seemed "normal". On the inside she was dealing with a mental illness,
depression. Her mom, aware of her condition, kept constant watch over her. She
made sure Brittany took her anti-depressant medication. She showered her with
love and attention. However, despite her rigorous efforts, Brittany still
committed suicide. Brittany committed suicide a few weeks shy of her 18th birthday.<o:p></o:p></span><br />
<span lang="EN" style="color: #333333; font-family: "georgia" , serif; font-size: 12pt;">Unfortunately, Brittany's case isn't unique or uncommon.</span><br />
<span lang="EN" style="color: #333333; font-family: "georgia" , serif; font-size: 12pt;"><o:p></o:p></span><br />
<span lang="EN" style="color: #333333; font-family: "georgia" , serif; font-size: 12pt;">In fact a new national study has found that 1 in 25 teens have
attempted suicide.<o:p></o:p></span><br />
<span lang="EN" style="color: #333333; font-family: "georgia" , serif; font-size: 12pt;">Click <a href="http://www.argusleader.com/story/news/columnists/stu-whitney/2016/04/08/teen-suicide-depression-brittany-corcoran-stu-whitney-sioux-falls/82716930/" target="_blank"><span style="color: #0072c6; text-decoration: none;">here</span></a> to read Brittany's story...<o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span lang="EN" style="color: #333333; font-family: "georgia" , serif; font-size: 12pt;">So we are left wondering <b>what causes suicidal thoughts in teenagers</b> that
ultimately leads to suicide?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span lang="EN" style="color: #333333; font-family: "georgia" , serif; font-size: 12pt;"><a href="http://live.huffingtonpost.com/r/segment/whats-causing-1-in/50eeca142b8c2a4e52000284" target="_blank"><span style="color: #0072c6; text-decoration: none;">Huffington Post</span></a>, had a round table discussion on this
topic in 2013. They talked to people who have been directly affected by teenage
suicide. These people shared their personal stories and thoughts about what
causes suicidal thoughts in teenagers.<o:p></o:p></span><br />
<span lang="EN" style="color: #333333; font-family: "georgia" , serif; font-size: 17.5pt;">What Causes Suicidal Thoughts In Teenagers<o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span lang="EN" style="color: #333333; font-family: "georgia" , serif; font-size: 12pt;">The most common answers:</span></div>
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and Mental Illness<o:p></o:p></span></li>
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Bullying<o:p></o:p></span></li>
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Media<o:p></o:p></span></li>
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Abuse<o:p></o:p></span></li>
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<span lang="EN" style="color: #333333; font-family: "georgia" , serif; font-size: 12pt;">It is important to remember that teenagers are more susceptible to feelings
of helplessness and many times they do not know how to ask for help.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It's this feeling of isolation that causes
suicidal thoughts in teenagers.<o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span lang="EN" style="color: #333333; font-family: "georgia" , serif; font-size: 12pt;">Is your teenager struggling with suicidal thoughts? Contact <a href="http://www.newvisioncounselingcenter.com/" target="_blank">New Vision Counseling Center, LLC</a> to schedule your confidential appointment. Our team of
therapists are able to help.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<b><span lang="EN" style="color: #333333; font-family: "times new roman" , serif; font-size: 12pt;">Signs of teenage suicidal
behavior</span></b><span lang="EN" style="color: #333333; font-family: "times new roman" , serif; font-size: 12pt;"> can
be hard to spot. Often time it is confused with regular adolescent behavior.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span lang="EN" style="color: #333333; font-family: "times new roman" , serif; font-size: 12pt;">The difference between
the two is that teenagers' suicidal behavior is more extreme.<o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span lang="EN" style="color: #333333; font-family: "times new roman" , serif; font-size: 12pt;">I want to you think for a
moment...<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span lang="EN" style="color: #333333; font-family: "times new roman" , serif; font-size: 12pt;">Have you ever said
to yourself, “I wish I could make all my troubles, hurts, and pains go away?”<o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span lang="EN" style="color: #333333; font-family: "times new roman" , serif; font-size: 12pt;">If you have, chances are
so has your teenager. It's this line of thinking that could sometimes lead to
suicidal thoughts.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span lang="EN" style="color: #333333; font-family: "times new roman" , serif; font-size: 12pt;">There is so much pressure
for a teenager to be "normal" or "perfect".<o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<!--[if !supportLists]--><span lang="EN" style="color: #333333; font-family: "times new roman" , serif; font-size: 12pt;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">1.<span style="font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; font: 7pt/normal "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="EN" style="color: #333333; font-family: "times new roman" , serif; font-size: 12pt;">They have to be a model
child for their parents.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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friend to their peers.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<!--[if !supportLists]--><span lang="EN" style="color: #333333; font-family: "times new roman" , serif; font-size: 12pt;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">3.<span style="font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; font: 7pt/normal "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="EN" style="color: #333333; font-family: "times new roman" , serif; font-size: 12pt;">They have to be a good
student for their teachers.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN" style="color: #333333; font-family: "times new roman" , serif; font-size: 12pt;">All of these things and
more are overwhelming and stressful.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span lang="EN" style="color: #333333; font-family: "times new roman" , serif; font-size: 12pt;">In fact suicide is the
third leading cause of death in 15 - 24 year olds according to <a href="http://healthychildren.org/" target="_blank"><span style="color: #0072c6; text-decoration: none;">healthychildren.org</span></a>.<o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span lang="EN" style="color: #333333; font-family: "times new roman" , serif; font-size: 12pt;">As a parent myself, it is
scary for me to think that my child could go to such a dark place.<br />
What scares me even more is not being able to bring them back from the brink of
despair.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span lang="EN" style="color: #333333; font-family: "times new roman" , serif; font-size: 12pt;">To fight such a
battle, we as parents, must first know the signs of our teenagers suicidal
behavior.<o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span lang="EN" style="color: #333333; font-family: "times new roman" , serif; font-size: 12pt;">Common <b>signs of
teenage suicidal behavior</b>:<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span lang="EN" style="color: #333333; font-family: "times new roman" , serif; font-size: 17.5pt;">Signs
Of Teenage Suicidal Behavior<o:p></o:p></span><br />
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death in conversation, writing, or drawing<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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and family<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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hostile behavior<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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appearance<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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such as reckless driving or being sexually promiscuous<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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(such as from upbeat to quiet)<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN" style="color: #333333; font-family: "times new roman" , serif; font-size: 12pt;">Some of these signs could
be a cry for attention and may never progress to suicidal thoughts.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span lang="EN" style="color: #333333; font-family: "times new roman" , serif; font-size: 12pt;">Any cry for attention
should be met with swift intervention.<o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span lang="EN" style="color: #333333; font-family: "times new roman" , serif; font-size: 12pt;">If you think your
teenager's behaviors are signs of suicidal thoughts, please seek help for
them.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>If they are an immediate danger,
call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Once they are stable, contact us to schedule a confidential appointment
with one of the many therapists at <a href="http://www.newvisioncounselingcenter.com/" target="_blank">New Vision Counseling Center, LLC.<o:p></o:p></a></span></div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04959684197599754239noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2049568737692895450.post-63430742755307856082016-04-11T09:00:00.000-04:002016-04-11T09:00:16.305-04:00How To Deal With Troubled Teens<br />
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<span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "georgia" , serif; font-size: 14pt;">Think back to when you were a teenager.</span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "georgia" , serif; font-size: 14pt;">Would your parents or society have placed you in the <b>troubled teen</b>
category?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt;"><o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "georgia" , serif; font-size: 14pt;">What were some of your experiences? Do you remember the emotions you felt,
the stress you felt to be popular, or smart, or pretty? </span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "georgia" , serif; font-size: 14pt;">Surprisingly enough, sometimes these emotions follow us into adulthood. But
one hopes that as we age and become wiser we know how to deal with these
emotions in a mature and healthy fashion. </span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt;"><o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "georgia" , serif; font-size: 14pt;">As a teenager the brain doesn’t quite yet understand the concept that “this
too shall pass”. This could lead to some behaviors that would cause them to be
labeled as troubled teens. </span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "georgia" , serif; font-size: 14pt;">Click </span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt;"><a href="http://www.helpguide.org/articles/teen-issues/helping-troubled-teens.htm" target="_blank"><span style="color: #0072c6; font-family: "georgia" , serif; font-size: 14pt;">here</span></a></span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "georgia" , serif; font-size: 14pt;"> to learn
more about the inner workings of a teenager’s brain.</span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt;"><o:p><span style="font-family: "calibri";"> </span></o:p></span><br />
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<span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "georgia" , serif; font-size: 14pt;">If you are a parent with a <b>troubled teen</b>, don’t despair, there is
hope and light at the end of the tunnel. Although parenting a troubled teen
will take extra effort on your part, there are things you can do to make the
situation easier. </span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "georgia" , serif; font-size: 14pt;">Identify The
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<span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "georgia" , serif; font-size: 14pt;"> If your troubled teen
has recently made a drastic personality change or a shift in their circle of
friends, sit down with them and talk about it. There may be something going on
of which you are unaware. As busy adults it is very easy to neglect the needs
of our teens. Therefore, we must remember that raising healthy teenagers should
be our number one focus and remain vigilant.</span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "georgia" , serif; font-size: 14pt;">I remember I had a friend in high school who started drinking a lot.
Unbeknownst to her mother, the father was sexually molesting her and this is
what caused her drinking. Her mother was so consumed with her own life, she
never took the time to identify the root cause of my friend’s behavior.</span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt;"><o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "georgia" , serif; font-size: 14pt;">Don’t let something like this happen to you.</span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt;"><o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "georgia" , serif; font-size: 14pt;"> If your
troubled teen is doing things like skipping school, staying out past curfew, or
shoplifting etc., then establish some ground rules and consequences to their
actions. For example, if they are skipping school, don’t allow them any
television or social media interaction. </span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt;"><o:p></o:p></span><br />
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allow them to be consumed by it. If you do, removing them from social media as
a consequence may cause some frightening responses. In fact, there was a </span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt;"><a href="http://www.nydailynews.com/news/crime/virginia-teen-admits-killing-parents-ipod-article-1.1810180" target="_blank"><span style="color: #0072c6; font-family: "georgia" , serif; font-size: 14pt;">news story</span></a></span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "georgia" , serif; font-size: 14pt;"> of a young
man, who was an “A” student and one would not consider troubled, killing his
parents because they took away his Ipod. </span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "georgia" , serif; font-size: 14pt;">I don’t share this story with you to scare you but I am using it as a
cautionary tale in order to make you aware and warn you of the possible
outcomes of letting your child become overly dependent on social media and
technology. </span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "georgia" , serif; font-size: 14pt;">I specialize in counseling <b>troubled teens </b><span style="mso-bidi-font-weight: bold;">and families</span>. Sometimes my teenage clients will open up to me even
when their parents have exhausted all attempts at communication. This is
because they find it easier to speak to someone who is not directly involved in
the situation. This allows me to find the causes of their negative behavior and
relay them to the parents. Afterwards I assist the parents in coming up with a
plan of action to help get their troubled teen back on track. </span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "georgia" , serif; font-size: 14pt;">There are so many outside forces that can cause your once happy go lucky
teen to become troubled. But whatever you do, do not give up on them and do not
stop trying to get through to them. They may not know it but they desperately
want you to be “all up in their business”. Your persistence shows them that you
love them and love and acceptance is what they are really after.</span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt;"><o:p></o:p></span>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04959684197599754239noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2049568737692895450.post-91351004322087695072016-04-09T09:00:00.000-04:002016-04-09T09:00:11.826-04:00Dealing With A Defiant Child? Here’s 3 Tips To Help You
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the frustration in the mother’s eyes in the checkout line of the grocery store.
I could almost read her thoughts and hear her prayers of patience. <b>Dealing
with a defiant child</b> is not an easy task especially when you are in public
and do not want to draw attention to yourself by causing a scene.</span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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patience, love, endurance and understanding to come out of the trenches
unscathed. It is even more difficult to parent when you are <b>dealing with a defiant
child</b>.</span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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prominent reason is lack of control and this is especially true in toddlers and
preschoolers. They lack any sense of control over their lives at this young age
yet they still want to assert their independence. What we as parents see as
defiance, toddlers and preschoolers see as independence.</span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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The Adult</span><span lang="EN" style="color: #434343; font-family: "Segoe UI Light",sans-serif; font-size: 21pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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defiant child isn’t being that way on purpose. It is easy to lose your temper
when you want your child to do something and their defiance rears its ugly
head. As the adult you need to maintain a sense of calm. By remaining calm,
your child will mimic your behavior. If you get on the crazy train with them
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parent you control every aspect of your toddler/preschoolers’ life, from what
time they wake up in the morning, to what they eat, wear etc. In order to
lessen some of the defiant behavior allow them to make some choices. For
instance, pick out two outfits and allow them to decide which of the two
outfits they want to wear. Giving them the ability to make decisions helps them
to feel more in control of their life. This is also a great way to build and support
their natural instinct to be independent. </span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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defiant child is just having a bad day. As parents we tend to forget that just
because toddlers/preschoolers don’t have the stresses of work and bills they
still get stressed out. Maybe they feel like you don’t understand what they are
trying to say or perhaps you are not giving them the attention they want. All
of these things can cause them to have a melt down. When we as adults have melt
downs it is no longer acceptable for us to scream and roll around on the floor,
although many of us wish we could, me included. But it is acceptable for your
child. So let them get it out, ensure they will not harm themselves and just
wait until they calm down. Afterwards they will be your sweet angel once again.
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challenging to say the least. But it’s important to remember that your child’s
behavior in a particular situation does not define your child. Be careful about
negatively labeling your child with such phrases as bad child, hard-headed etc.
As the parent you are responsible for guiding and molding your child. So keep a
high tolerance for patience, humor, and a lot of love. Because in the end that
is all your child really wants and needs. </span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #666666; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 16px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">In the case of the Bower bird he doesn’t fight or display elaborate colors, instead he uses his cognitive and building skills to lure a mate. He builds a </span><a href="http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/bower" style="text-decoration: none;" target="_blank"><span style="font-family: Georgia; font-size: 16px; text-decoration: underline; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="color: #0072c6;">bower</span></span></a><span style="color: #666666; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 16px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"> to attract his female counterpart. He takes great pride in his bower using sticks and twigs to build it high enough for her to see. He adorns it with insects, flower petals, and other objects he thinks will attract a mate.</span></div>
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<span style="color: #666666; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 16px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"> In addition to being a master builder, the Bower bird is also a master illusionist. In order to appear bigger and thus more desirable to his mate, he arranges stones at the end of his bower from small to big. This way when his female counterparts view him from the other end of the bower, he appears bigger next to the smaller stones. This makes the female think he will be a good candidate to mate with because he is big and strong and will produce big and strong offspring to help the species survive. </span></div>
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<span style="color: #666666; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 16px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">When contemplating a potential candidate for marriage, he/she may present an illusion of the type of person you want to marry. Once the marriage has happened and the illusion wears off, you are left with chaos and confusion.</span></div>
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</span>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04959684197599754239noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2049568737692895450.post-21903906692972244092016-02-12T09:00:00.000-05:002016-02-12T09:00:07.566-05:00The One Technique That Will Help You Reach Sexual Nirvana<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<span style="color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 16px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">An unfulfilling sex life is one of the biggest complaints I get from my clients. Their once vibrant and passionate sex life has now become dull and apathetic. This can happen for many reasons but it doesn’t have to continue. There are things you can do to fight your way back from the wasteland of mundane sex and re-enter the sexual eden you and your partner once experienced. </span></div>
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<span style="color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 16px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">The greatest way to transform your sex life is to make it more than just a physical exchange. Help the bonds of your relationship grow stronger by making your sex more spiritual in nature. This can be achieved by incorporating </span><a href="http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-23332/tantric-sex-101-what-it-is-how-to-do-it.html" style="text-decoration: none;" target="_blank"><span style="font-family: Georgia; font-size: 16px; text-decoration: underline; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="color: #0072c6;">Tantric Sex</span></span></a><span style="color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 16px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"> into your bedroom. </span></div>
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<span style="color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 16px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Tantric Sex is a way to move your sexual experience beyond physical and reach a deeper spiritual level of intimacy with your mate. This type of sexual experience should only be done with someone with whom you are in a committed relationship. The practicing of Tantric Sex will help your relationship to heal so that you can once again have a passionate sex life.</span></div>
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<span style="color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 16px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">The article </span><a href="http://thespiritscience.net/2015/09/25/5-steps-to-achieving-the-most-intimate-tantric-intimacy/" style="text-decoration: none;" target="_blank"><span style="font-family: Georgia; font-size: 16px; text-decoration: underline; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="color: #0072c6;">5 STEPS TO ACHIEVING THE MOST TANTRIC INTIMACY</span></span></a><span style="color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 16px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"> gives the following simple steps with instructions for beginners: </span></div>
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<span style="color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 16px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">While these things may sound silly or seem intimidating they can be completed with ease. To get a better understanding of Tantric Sex read the article in it’s entirety and also do your own research. </span></div>
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<span style="color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 16px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Tantric Sex is a wonderful way to recharge and renew your sex life and the bond you share with your partner. It can help your partnership to become more cohesive and stronger so that you can withstand any adversity. It also has the added benefit of helping you both to become more self aware and if embraced in it’s entirety help you heal from past hurts. </span></div>
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<span style="color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 16px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14.66px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14.66px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="background: white; color: #ff6666;">*Info in this blog is strictly my personal and/or professional opinion. Posts and comments are not intended to treat, diagnose or replace any medical advice you may have received. Please contact your doctor or therapist if you feel you need help, and in case of an emergency, dial 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.*</span></span> </span></span></span>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04959684197599754239noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2049568737692895450.post-26107666510239452812016-02-05T09:00:00.000-05:002016-02-05T09:00:05.949-05:00Amazingly Awesome Things To Do If You Are Single On Valentine’s Day<div dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38;">
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<span style="color: #181818; font-family: "georgia"; font-size: 17.33px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Single” is an opportunity to live life on your own terms and not apologize.” - </span><a href="http://www.goodreads.com/author/show/5623882.Mandy_Hale" style="text-decoration: none;" target="_blank"><span style="color: #333333; font-family: "georgia"; font-size: 16px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Mandy Hale</span></a><span style="color: #181818; font-family: "georgia"; font-size: 16px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">, The Single Woman: Life, Love, and a Dash of Sass</span><br /></div>
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<span style="font-family: Times New Roman;"><br /></span><b><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "Georgia",serif; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Here are some amazingly awesome things to do for yourself on Valentine’s Day</span></b><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri;"><o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<b><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "Georgia",serif; font-size: 12pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Mix And Mingle</span></b><br />
<b><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "Georgia",serif; font-size: 12pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"></span></b><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "Georgia",serif; font-size: 12pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">If you have single friends hook up with them on Valentine’s Day and go somewhere fun. Go dancing, attend a play, or out to dinner. You will find that on Valentine’s Day many venues host events just for singles. You may even meet someone there who tickles your fancy. If you do, great! If you don’t, no big deal. The point is don’t think that just because you are single on Valentine’s Day that you have to stay at home feeling sorry for yourself and being ashamed that you are single. Being single can be liberating if you let it. </span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri;"><o:p></o:p></span><br />
<b><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "Georgia",serif; font-size: 12pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Treat Yourself <o:p></o:p></span></b><br />
<span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "Georgia",serif; font-size: 12pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">The great thing about being single on Valentine’s Day is that you don’t have to spend money on a gift for someone else hoping they like it. Instead you get to buy yourself something that you know you will like. If you see a stuffed teddy bear that you wish someone would buy you, then buy it for yourself. If you want to go to a certain restaurant, take yourself. Remember to enjoy your own company because no one knows or loves you like you.</span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri;"><o:p></o:p></span><br />
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make your wildest wishes come true, your mind would not have the capacity to
conjure such ideas in the first place. There is no limitation on what you can
potentially achieve, except for the limitation you choose to impose on your own
imagination. What you believe to be possible will always come to pass - to the
extent that you deem it possible. It really is as simple as that.” - Anthon
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using the S.M.A.R.T. method. I hope you have not only learned from my post but
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also taught myself more about crafting my goals better so that I will achieve
them. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN" style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;">Let’s begin crafting the last portion of your S.M.A.R.T. goals, Time-Bound.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN" style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;">Don’t forget your S.M.A.R.T. goals <a href="https://docs.google.com/document/d/1LUd2vghCYj80r5j-XS0MnYmoZYF6VXrHqgnwdPvArWE/edit?usp=sharing" target="_blank">worksheet</a>. </span></div>
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<b><span lang="EN" style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;">Time-Bound</span></b><span lang="EN" style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span lang="EN" style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;">This portion of goal setting refers to setting your goals in a time frame
giving them a sense of urgency. By setting a specific date on which your goals
should be achieved you do not let life get in the way of achieving your goals.
In my last <a href="http://newvisioncounselingcenter.blogspot.com/2016/01/easy-steps-to-attain-your-goals-and-get.html" target="_blank">blog post</a> I gave in my example how to set a specific date for
completing your goals. <o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<b><span lang="EN" style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;">Bad Example:</span></b><span lang="EN" style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"> I am going to lose 20lbs this year. <o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<b><span lang="EN" style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;">Good Example:</span></b><span lang="EN" style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"> I am going to lose 20lbs by this year. I will be starting my diet on May
1, 2016 and I will have lost 20lbs by August 12, 2016. <o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span lang="EN" style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;">By setting a specific date you begin to subconsciously place more value and
importance on this goal because you have given yourself a deadline. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN" style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;">I have completed explaining how to craft your goals using the S.M.A.R.T.
goal setting method. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN" style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;">Have you understood how to implement this new strategy of goal setting?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN" style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;">I will now give you one last example using all five letters of the
S.M.A.R.T. goal.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<b><span lang="EN" style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;">Bad Example:</span></b><span lang="EN" style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"> I want to lose 20lbs pounds this year so I can fit into my bikini this
summer when I go to the beach. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span lang="EN" style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"><o:p> </o:p></span><br />
<b><span lang="EN" style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;">Good Example:</span></b><span lang="EN" style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"> Starting on January 1, 2016 I am going to start my diet so that I will
lose 20lbs in order to fit into a bikini when I go the Bahamas. I can just
envision myself walking along the beach with no self-doubt, fear or shame. I
will be confident once again in my own body and my self-awareness will improve.
I will begin my diet by changing my eating habits following the Weight Watchers
diet plan. I will start walking three times a week for at least 30 minutes and
toning twice a week for 15 minutes each session doing upper body one day and
lower body the next day. I will have lost 20lbs by May 23, 2016 and I will be
able to fit into my size 8 bikini.<o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span lang="EN" style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;">See the difference in the two examples?<o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span lang="EN" style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;">The first example is just a vague statement and when reading it doesn’t
invoke any excitement, urgency or importance. In the next example however, you
have a vision of how your life will be when you lose 20lbs and you have an
executable plan of action to follow. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN" style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;">As I bring this blog post to a close I want to thank you for reading. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN" style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;">I cannot say enough how I hope you not only got value out of this but also
that you implement the strategies that you have learned. <o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span lang="EN" style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;">Leave me a comment below and tell me your thoughts. I would love to hear
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04959684197599754239noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2049568737692895450.post-38903744376845520492016-01-20T09:00:00.000-05:002016-01-20T09:00:12.278-05:00Easy Steps To Attain Your Goals And Get Results<span style="color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">"You control your future, your destiny. What you think about comes about. By recording your dreams and goals on paper, you set in motion the process of becoming the person you most want to be. Put your future in good hands - your own.”- Mark Victor Hansen</span><br />
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">All month long I have been discussing how to set goals this year using a method that will increase your chances of achieving your goals. </span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">I began this month by having you complete a <a href="https://docs.google.com/document/d/1PlJvEZ4pdbzj63XdV-DsnQ69saamyMx1ZJlNM1CJJfU/edit?usp=sharing" target="_blank">dream sheet</a> which helped you to release all of your hopes and dreams out of your head and onto paper so that you can see them and meditate on them. </span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Then we began crafting those hopes and dreams into <a href="http://newvisioncounselingcenter.blogspot.com/2016/01/the-smart-way-to-craft-your-goals.html" target="_blank">S.M.A.R.T. goals</a> using the S.M.A.R.T. goals <a href="https://docs.google.com/document/d/1LUd2vghCYj80r5j-XS0MnYmoZYF6VXrHqgnwdPvArWE/edit?usp=sharing" target="_blank">worksheet</a>. </span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">How has your goal setting perspective changed?</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Today we will continue using the S.M.A.R.T. goals worksheet focusing on the “A” and the “R” to craft another portion of your goals. In this post we will make your goals Attainable so that you can begin seeing Results.</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14.66px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"> This portion of goal setting refers to the importance of your goals and if they are realistic. You shouldn’t create a goal that is far from realistic, I will give an example later on in this post. The main thing to remember when making your goals attainable is that they should be challenging and take you outside of your comfort zone but no out of reach.</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14.66px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"> This portion of goal setting refers to making your goals relevant and results-oriented, meaning it should move you closer to the vision of your ideal life. A goal should support your vision of what you want your life to be like once you achieve your goals. In this section you should be asking yourself the question what result do I hope to achieve from meeting my goals.</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14.66px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Now, I am going to give you examples of each.</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14.66px; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Bad Example:</span><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14.66px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"> Even though I have no formal education I am going to pursue a career as a biochemical engineer. </span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14.66px; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Good Example:</span><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14.66px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"> I want to change my career to become a biochemical engineer. Therefore I am going to go to school to obtain the necessary credentials and experience in order to pursue this career. </span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14.66px; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Results-Oriented</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14.66px; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Bad Example:</span><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14.66px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"> I am going to apply for a job as a biochemical engineer and hope for the best.</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14.66px; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Good Example:</span><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14.66px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"> Once I finish my degree as a biochemical engineer in June 31, 2017 I will begin my new career by finding a new job which I plan on securing by September 24, 2017.</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14.66px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">In the examples provided I show you how your SMART goals are aligned with your life vision and how they are results oriented. You want to establish your goals with an end-game in mind and by giving yourself a deadline, you are more likely to continue pursuing your goals until you achieve them.</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14.66px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Is the light bulb going off in your head?</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14.66px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Your homework for this week is to take the hopes and dreams from your <a href="https://docs.google.com/document/d/1PlJvEZ4pdbzj63XdV-DsnQ69saamyMx1ZJlNM1CJJfU/edit?usp=sharing" target="_blank">dream sheet</a> and take the goals your crafted last week using the S.M.A.R.T. <a href="https://docs.google.com/document/d/1LUd2vghCYj80r5j-XS0MnYmoZYF6VXrHqgnwdPvArWE/edit?usp=sharing" target="_blank">worksheet</a> and incorporate the new strategies of Attainability and Results-Oriented into the goals to make them more complete. </span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14.66px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">By the end of this week your goals should be near completion. </span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14.66px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">If you continue to follow this method of goal setting you will increase your chances of achieving all of your goals. </span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14.66px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Subscribe to my blog so you won’t miss next week's post where we will begin working on the Time-Bound section of crafting your goals. This will be the final installment of our goal setting methods before we put everything all together. </span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14.66px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Also, leave me a comment or ask me any questions in the comment section below. I would love to hear your feedback. </span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14.66px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">I hope you got a lot of value out of this post. Please share with your friends. </span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14.66px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14.66px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="background: white; color: #ff6666;">*Info in this blog is strictly my personal and/or professional opinion. Posts and comments are not intended to treat, diagnose or replace any medical advice you may have received. Please contact your doctor or therapist if you feel you need help, and in case of an emergency, dial 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.*</span></span> </span></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04959684197599754239noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2049568737692895450.post-77860964153157792462016-01-11T09:00:00.000-05:002016-01-11T09:00:08.805-05:00The SMART Way To Craft Your Goals
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achieve your goals you must have a clear plan of action. </span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "Georgia",serif; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">In my last
blog post <a href="http://newvisioncounselingcenter.blogspot.com/2016/01/how-to-set-goals-and-achieve-them.html" target="_blank">How To Set Goals And Achieve Them</a>,
I discussed setting your goals up properly in order to accomplish them. In that
post I included a <a href="https://docs.google.com/document/d/1PlJvEZ4pdbzj63XdV-DsnQ69saamyMx1ZJlNM1CJJfU/edit" target="_blank">dream sheet</a>
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completing the dream sheet to be an eye opening exercise?</span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri;"><o:p></o:p></span><br />
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have completed your dream sheet, we are going to take those hopes and dreams
and turn them into tangible goals by making them S.M.A.R.T.
(Specific/Strategic, Measurable, Attainable/Achievable, Results Oriented and
Time Bound).</span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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post we will be dealing only with the specific and measurable aspects of your
goals. </span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "Georgia",serif; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">In order to
do this correctly, download my S.M.A.R.T. goals worksheet <a href="https://docs.google.com/document/d/1LUd2vghCYj80r5j-XS0MnYmoZYF6VXrHqgnwdPvArWE/edit" target="_blank">here</a>.</span></div>
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portion of goal setting stresses specificity rather than vague and obscure.
Meaning your goals need to be clean and unambiguous. In order to make them
specific, it needs to be obvious what is expected so there is a clear
understanding of the target. The strategic refers to the reason it’s important
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portion of goal setting stresses the need for concrete criteria to measure your
progress towards the attainment of your goals. If your goals aren’t measurable,
they seem unattainable. If you can track your progress it helps you to move
further along to completion. </span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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crafting your goals. </span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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my blog and you won’t miss next week’s discussion on how to craft your goals to
make them attainable/achievable and realistic.</span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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examples of goals crafted using specific/strategic and measurable language. </span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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job.</span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<b><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "Georgia",serif; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Good Example:</span></b><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "Georgia",serif; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"> Obtain
a new job as a 10th grade math teacher at XYZ high school in Anytown, USA so
that I can show the children that math is a life skill which is fun and easy to
learn.</span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<b><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "Georgia",serif; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Measurable</span></b><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "Georgia",serif; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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to do whatever it takes to get a new job.</span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
<b><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "Georgia",serif; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Good Example:</span></b><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "Georgia",serif; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"> In order to
obtain my new teaching job as a 10th grade math teacher in XYZ high school in
Anytown, USA I am going to complete an online job application, I am going to
attend the district’s and the school’s job fair. I am going to begin networking
with teachers at XYZ school and in my free time volunteer so that I can
showcase my skills and desire to be apart of the teaching team at XYZ school. </span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri;"><o:p></o:p></span><br />
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the difference in those examples?</span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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examples are vague and don’t seem well thought out. In fact they seem more like
passing thoughts than actual goals. Whereas the good examples are clear and
detailed. You can read those goals and understand exactly which path you will
take. </span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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starting to catch on? Do you see how this style of goal setting is better than
your average style of goal setting?</span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri;"><o:p></o:p></span><br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04959684197599754239noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2049568737692895450.post-60149758239096178952016-01-07T10:16:00.001-05:002016-01-07T10:16:14.147-05:00How To Set Goals And Achieve Them
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<span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "Georgia",serif; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">“Setting
goals is the first step in turning the invisible to the visible.” Tony Robbins.
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<span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "Georgia",serif; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Do you set
goals each New Year? How many of those goals do you accomplish?</span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "Georgia",serif; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Have you ever
wondered why your momentum loses steam and you never reach your goals?</span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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like to learn a system of goal setting that will help you stay committed and on
track to reaching your goals this year?</span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "Georgia",serif; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">This month is
going to be all about goal setting, how to do it properly and how to follow
through. We can set goals all day long but if we don’t follow through they are
just thoughts in our head.</span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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different from you, each year I set goals and in the past I haven’t always
stayed committed to reaching my goals, that is until I found a method of goal
setting that I will be sharing with you today. </span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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problems with goal setting is that most people confuse hopes and dreams with
goals. A study done by the University of Scranton in the Journal of Clinical
Psychology found that 50% of the U.S. population sets goals each new year but
only an astounding 8% of that population achieves their goals. </span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "Georgia",serif; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">The method of
goal setting that I will be sharing with you this month will help to increase
the likelihood that you will meet all the goals you set for yourself this year.</span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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Method - Step 1</span></b><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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step is to create a <a href="https://docs.google.com/document/d/1PlJvEZ4pdbzj63XdV-DsnQ69saamyMx1ZJlNM1CJJfU/edit" target="_blank">dream sheet</a>. Complete this dream sheet and keep it with you
because we will be using this all month long to create your goals for the New
Year. </span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "Georgia",serif; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">In the <a href="https://docs.google.com/document/d/1PlJvEZ4pdbzj63XdV-DsnQ69saamyMx1ZJlNM1CJJfU/edit" target="_blank">dream sheet</a> you will find four sections…</span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "Georgia",serif; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">In this
section list all the things you would like to have. Imagine that you have
accomplished all of your goals and begin listing the things you will have as a
result of accomplishing your goals. For example, you have a goal of finding a
better paying job, so now that you have found a better paying job what do you
have? Do you have a new car? What kind? A new house? Where? Are you kids in a
better school? Which one? etc. List everything, use your imagination, this is
why it is called a dream sheet. You are only limited by your imagination. </span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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person will you be now that you have found a better paying job? Will you be a
more active PTA member at your children’s school? Will you be a better
investor? Will you be someone who shops more or go out more with your friends?
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be doing now that you have found a better paying job? Will you be traveling
more? Will you be working from home more? Will you be going back to school?</span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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your list from 1-3 with 1 being of the utmost importance and 3 being the least
important.</span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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determined your most important goals take all of your “1s” and list them from
1-5 with 1 being the goal that you are most determined to achieve and 5 being
the least. </span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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main reasons people don’t achieve their goals is because they are not crystal
clear about their goals, they have a vague sense of what they want to
accomplish but no definitive plan. </span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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this <a href="https://docs.google.com/document/d/1PlJvEZ4pdbzj63XdV-DsnQ69saamyMx1ZJlNM1CJJfU/edit" target="_blank">dream sheet</a> you will be one step closer to achieving all the goals you
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week’s post we are going to discuss how to break down your highest ranking
goals into actionable items so you don’t want to miss it. Go ahead, if you
haven’t already done so and subscribe to my blog so you don’t miss anything
this month. It’s going to be powerful and valuable. </span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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somewhere safe. As I mentioned before you will be using it all month long to
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anytime is difficult. Even if you are “consciously uncoupling” as Gwyneth
Paltrow puts it, leaving a familiar life behind to embark on a new one is scary
and stressful. </span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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factor in your children’s emotions and separation anxiety it can become
downright depressing. </span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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there is light at the end of the tunnel and as you begin your new journey, your
children will eventually adapt. But you must be vigilant in your quest to make
this transition as smooth for your children as possible. </span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "Georgia",serif; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Children love
both parents and so are loyal to you both. Don’t let your anger spill over into
your child’s view of their parent. Everyone suffers after a divorce but the
more you hold on to your anger the more it will consume you. Instead spend the
time with your children being grateful for the unconditional love they offer. <b><o:p></o:p></b></span><br />
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will be hard being alone for the first time during the holidays since
divorcing. If you are the primary parent don’t begrudge your children’s
excitement to spend time with the secondary parent because of your
unwillingness to be alone. Children have a right and a need to spend joyous
quality time with both parents. So encourage their enthusiasm and don’t battle
with your ex about small details like the children being brought back at 2:00
instead of noon. </span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri;"><o:p></o:p></span><br />
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you can no longer do the things you did when you were married with your
children because it renews your hurt and anger, then create new
traditions. Creating new traditions will help to make new pleasant post
divorce memories. If when you were married, you picked out a tree on
Thanksgiving, pick out a tree earlier or later. If you made holiday cookies
together as a family, try making something different like brownies. Maybe
instead of staying home take a trip. Making new traditions helps to heal the
wounds of losing what once was. </span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: "Segoe UI"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri;"><o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14.66px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="background: white; color: #ff6666;">*Info in this blog is strictly my personal and/or professional opinion. Posts and comments are not intended to treat, diagnose or replace any medical advice you may have received. Please contact your doctor or therapist if you feel you need help, and in case of an emergency, dial 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.*</span></span>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04959684197599754239noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2049568737692895450.post-29582678535114723622016-01-01T09:24:00.001-05:002016-01-01T09:24:50.785-05:00Coping With The Loss Of A Loved One During The Holidays
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a loved one, no matter the circumstances is never easy, losing a loved one
around the holidays can be especially difficult because the holidays are a time
dedicated to being with loved ones. </span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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famous television celebrity Kristin Cavallari lost her 30 year old brother,
tragically, suddenly and without warning. She went public with her lost
by posting baby photos of her and her brother side by side and writing,
"My heart is in a million pieces. Mikey, I could always count on you
to make me laugh. You had such a good heart and will be forever missed. I'm at
a loss for words but I know u are in a better place and finally at peace. I
love u so much RIP."</span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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this seems like this should be a private moment for her, sometimes the best way
to deal with the lost of a loved one is to share your feelings with others. </span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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you are struggling with your grief for the lost of a loved one during this
holiday season, here are a few things you can do to make your grief more
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To Cope With The Loss Of A Loved One During The Holidays</span></b><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"></span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Take a page from Kristin Cavallari’s book and
share your feelings of grief with others. These other people could be your
family members, your friends, or even a chat room dedicated to the topic. The
point is to not internalize your grief and try to deal with it on your own.
Grief is a natural part of acceptance and healing and by sharing it with others
helps you to release your pain. </span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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cheerful during the holiday season if you are not feeling up to it. Allow
yourself time to cry and to have quiet time. Don’t feel the need to act as if
your grief is not relevant or allowed just because it is the holidays. However,
don’t get so lost in your grief that you forget to live and to smile every once
in a while. Don’t feel guilty for finding some pleasure during your grief.</span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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spirit of giving and doing for others. It has been scientifically proven that
when we give and help others it also helps our mood and attitude. Therefore use
this time to volunteer your time to a nursing home, a food bank, or a
children’s hospital. This will not only help you to momentarily forget your
grief but it will help someone else to also momentarily forget their pain and
trouble. </span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14.66px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Instead of thinking about how horrid the time spent with your in-laws will be, focus </span><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14.66px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">instead on the positive. Remember that the holidays are a time to spend with family </span><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14.66px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">and loved ones. Think about how happy spending time with your in-laws makes your </span><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14.66px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">spouse. If you just zone in on this one principle, making your spouse happy, you will f</span><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14.66px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">ind that dealing with your in-laws is a lot more tolerable.</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14.66px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">If you know that every time your in-laws are around it makes your skin crawl, then </span><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14.66px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">discuss this openly with your spouse. Share your concerns so that the two of you can </span><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14.66px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">work through them together. Illicit help from your spouse in dealing with your in-laws. </span><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14.66px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Your spouse can act as a mediator or your defender, depending on the situation. But your </span><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14.66px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">spouse won’t be able to do either if unaware of your feelings and concerns. </span></div>
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If at any point you feel like your in-laws are being disrespectful or rude it is perfectly <span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14.66px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">acceptable to be assertive in your response without being combative. You can simply state t</span><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14.66px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">o your in-laws that you will not accept any mistreatment from them. If they continue wi</span><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14.66px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">th their disrespectful behavior, try to put some distance between you, by not being in </span><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14.66px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">the same room with them. Instead be with other family members in different areas of </span><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14.66px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">the house or stay by your spouse’s side so that your spouse can witness the bad behavior </span><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14.66px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">first hand and deal with it. </span><br />
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The key to surviving the holidays with your in-laws is to remember that the time spent with them will be short. They are an extension of your spouse and so to make your spouse happy you can endure them during the holidays. Once they are gone life will resume as normal. There is no need to let them stress you out or ruin your holiday good cheer. Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04959684197599754239noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2049568737692895450.post-74685568005875679872015-12-15T23:28:00.000-05:002015-12-15T23:28:54.981-05:00How To Cope With Holiday Stress<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14.66px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"> The day for which you have been planning is finally here. The doorbell rings, you peek through your peephole to see the familiar faces of family. But right before you open the door, your breathing becomes shallow, you suddenly feel light headed, and your palms are sweaty. You didn’t realize, until this very moment, how stressed your holiday preparations have made you.</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14.66px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Do you find yourself under undue stress during the holidays? How have you managed to cope with your stress in the past? Were your coping techniques successful or do you find that once again you are feeling the pains of holiday stress?</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14.66px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Stress brought on by the holidays is common but it can be managed with a few simple techniques.</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14.66px; font-weight: 700; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="white-space: pre;"> </span></span><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14.66px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">If you are the host for holiday events prepare for something to go wrong. Just <br /> </span><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14.66px; line-height: 1.38; white-space: pre-wrap;"> because</span><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14.66px; line-height: 1.38; white-space: pre-wrap;"> something isn’t “perfect” doesn’t mean it’s bad. Chances are your guest will not realize</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14.66px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"> advance so that you don’t overcook yourself. Set a budget so that you don’t overextend </span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14.66px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"> your finances. Having a plan in place will help to keep you grounded and from feeling </span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14.66px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"> once. It is perfectly okay to tell people no. There is nothing wrong with setting </span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14.66px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"> boundaries and sticking to them. In fact, sticking to your boundaries makes you feel </span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14.66px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"> empowered and balanced which keeps your stress levels to a minimum.</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Georgia; font-size: 14.66px; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"> take a walk, just do something that will take you away from the constant reverie of the </span></div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04959684197599754239noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2049568737692895450.post-59810311384871704402013-08-27T09:00:00.000-04:002013-08-27T09:00:11.888-04:00Benefits of Putting Your Marriage First<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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many couples, when you have children you fall into a pattern. That pattern
usually consists of your kids, because they now have become your life. Although
your children may be your pride and joy and are a huge factor in making your
life complete. The child-centered life can take a toll on relationships and can
be even harder for the kids. Focusing on your marriage first can not only
create a healthier marriage, but also produce happier children as well. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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family behavior agree that a strong bond between parents is the heart of a
happy family. As sex therapist Laura Berman, Ph.D., puts it in her couples'
guide,<span class="apple-converted-space"> </span><i>The Book of Love,</i><span class="apple-converted-space"> </span>"No matter how sacrilegious it
sounds...you need to put your relationship before your children. A strong
relationship provides security for your children and demonstrates how a loving,
respectful partnership should be. What could be more important?"<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial; font-family: 'Modern No. 20', serif; font-size: 12pt;">"Our studies show
that how a couple's relationship is going has an impact on how the kids are
doing," says Philip Cowan, Ph.D., an emeritus professor of psychology at
the University of California, Berkeley. He's studied families for decades with
his wife, psychologist Carolyn Pape Cowan, Ph.D. When parents are so focused on
their children that they don't have the time or energy to relate as a couple,
he notes, they're more likely to grow discontented. Kids can pick up on the
unhappiness and feel insecure about family unity; that anxiety could lead to
problems such as depression or aggression. And when adults pour their attention
into their children instead of their spouses, the balance of power is skewed.
"Kids end up thinking they're the center of the universe," says Code,
"and might act selfishly and manipulatively."<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<b><u><span style="background-color: white; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial; font-family: 'Modern No. 20', serif; font-size: 12pt;">First rule:</span></u></b><u><span style="background-color: white; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial; font-family: 'Modern No. 20', serif; font-size: 12pt;"> Start small.</span></u><span style="background-color: white; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial; font-family: 'Modern No. 20', serif; font-size: 12pt;"> With a routine already in place breaking
away from it can be difficult. It’s about starting small and making the most
out of your time together. It doesn’t have to be a dramatic change at once. Consider
things like waking up fifteen minutes earlier to chat over coffee or go to bed
at the same time. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<u><span style="background-color: white; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial; font-family: 'Modern No. 20', serif; font-size: 12pt;">Have kid-free
conversations.</span></u><span style="background-color: white; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial; font-family: 'Modern No. 20', serif; font-size: 12pt;"> When you are out
together save the talk about the kids for later. Be all about the relationship.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<u><span style="background-color: white; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial; font-family: 'Modern No. 20', serif; font-size: 12pt;">Stay in touch during
the day.</span></u><span style="background-color: white; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial; font-family: 'Modern No. 20', serif; font-size: 12pt;"> With the many ways of
communication today it is easy to stay in contact. Send sweet emails, or text
throughout the day to express your love for them. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<u><span style="background-color: white; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial; font-family: 'Modern No. 20', serif; font-size: 12pt;">Try new things
together.</span></u><span style="background-color: white; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial; font-family: 'Modern No. 20', serif; font-size: 12pt;"> It allows quality
alone time together, without the pressure of scintillating conversation about
life or the kids.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<u><span style="background-color: white; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial; font-family: 'Modern No. 20', serif; font-size: 12pt;">Indulge in PDA-</span></u><span style="background-color: white; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial; font-family: 'Modern No. 20', serif; font-size: 12pt;"> Affection keeps you connected and demonstrate
to the kids an important part of your marriage. As a result you are modeling
what a good relationship is like. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<u><span style="background-color: white; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial; font-family: 'Modern No. 20', serif; font-size: 12pt;">Make pleasure a
priority-</span></u><span style="background-color: white; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial; font-family: 'Modern No. 20', serif; font-size: 12pt;"> <span class="apple-converted-space"> </span>Dr. Hutcherson says "I tell patients
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<span style="background-color: white; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial; font-family: 'Modern No. 20', serif; font-size: 12pt;"> spoon when they fall asleep. The pleasure chemicals released
from skin-to-skin contact bond you." Spontaneity is fun, but if you are
realistic and plan for intimacy, at least you know you’ll have it. Intimacy is
a fundamental part of having a happy and healthy relationship and should be
incorporated into your routine as such.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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work means you will be less tired, less resentful, and more amped for intimacy. </span><span style="font-family: "Modern No. 20","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04959684197599754239noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2049568737692895450.post-7661484998905425672013-08-18T14:00:00.000-04:002013-08-18T14:00:04.325-04:00How To Guide: To Getting The Home Life You've Dreamed Of<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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see the perfect families on TV and dream to have a family like that one day.
Where the children are God sent angels, the wife is Susie Homemaker, and the
house is finely decorated. Upon realizing every family situation is different,
you can learn to create your ideal family unit of your own. Below are some tips
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Be affectionate- Love and affection creates bonding, which promotes a healthier
closer family unit. Love also allows one to feel a sense of belong and have
higher self-esteem. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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Deposit the qualities into your relationship that you wish to withdraw- This is
essentially leading by example. If you want your husband and children to act
out of love and kindness, you give them the love and kindness expected of them.
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Communicate- Communication is key in any relationship. Talk often with your
spouse so that you both can stay on the same page with the dealings of your
family. Communicate with your children so they can learn what is expected of
them and what their boundaries are.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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Tend to your own life- An old saying is a happy wife, a happy life. Too often
parents lose themselves in the shadow of their families. To take care of your
family the best way you can, you have to first take care of yourself the best
way you can. Take time for you and treat yourself. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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Live in the moment- you can’t press rewind on their childhood, enjoy the now.
If the house is a mess, take the time to play a cleaning up game instead of
fussing about it. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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Appreciate each other- it’s the little things that can make or break our level
of coping. Small gestures go a long way. Take the time to appreciate the
smaller things and watch how much more your mood elevates<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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Give yourself time to think- When you find yourself upset or furious in a
situation. It is ok to ask everyone to go to their rooms or for you to even go
to yours. Give yourself time to cool down, and evaluate the best way to handle
the situation. That way you are handling things logically and not emotionally. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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Create tradition- traditions gives children a sense of belonging and identity.
Additionally, It gives them something to look forward to, as well as
consistency.<o:p></o:p></span><br />
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are some tips that you implement in your home that keeps your family happy?
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04959684197599754239noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2049568737692895450.post-7292694271056822602013-07-22T08:00:00.000-04:002013-07-22T08:00:02.956-04:00The Power of Praise<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<span style="font-family: 'Modern No. 20', serif; font-size: 12pt;">“Wow,
your hair looks amazing today!” “Honey, the dinner you cooked was fantastic!”
or “Jim, that was an excellent report you gave at the meeting!” The power of
praise can take your relationships to elevating new levels. Life is all about
relationships, and to have any type of successful relationship one should
utilize the art of praise.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Modern No. 20","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt;">There
is power in praising people. It’s no secret that one can get more with honey
than vinegar. Praise is all about focusing on the positive, and it is generally
a win-win proposition. It builds
connections, helps people feel appreciated, and let’s people know you are
paying attention. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Modern No. 20","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt;">Giving
praise does not just benefit the person you gave the compliment too, it benefits
you as well. The impact that you can
make on someone, simply from the way you interact with them is enormous. It
could be as simple as saying something genuine to make someone smile, which
causes them to be happy. Their happiness you brought upon could lead to them
liking you more, or being more receptive to helping you. The investment of
compliments usually reaps over a thousand fold. The more positive you put out,
the more positive comes your way. Anyone
who understands the theory pay it forward, can attest to that.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Modern No. 20","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt;">Giving
praise requires paying attention to detail and finding the good in situations. By
doing so you are changing your frame of thought to positivity. Positivity
determines if your glass is half full. My challenge to you is to find the
positive in spouse, co-workers, and children. If you feel you can’t find
something, then keep looking. Even if it is something small, make an effort to
give praise. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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and/or professional opinion. Posts and comments are not intended to treat,
diagnose or replace any medical advice you may have received. Please contact
your doctor or therapist if you feel you need help, and in case of an
emergency, dial 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.*</span><span style="font-family: "Modern No. 20","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04959684197599754239noreply@blogger.com0Office Park Drive, Douglasville, GA 30134, USA33.7532454 -84.73109110000001533.752832899999994 -84.731721600000014 33.7536579 -84.730460600000015tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2049568737692895450.post-6557880681950382242013-07-20T08:00:00.000-04:002013-07-20T08:00:04.537-04:00The Secret You Didn't Know About Your Friends<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<span style="background-color: white; font-family: 'Modern No. 20', serif; font-size: 12pt;">Friendship Colours defines a friend as, the one who are always there
with you, whether the times are bad or good. They never leave your side, even
if the situation is worst. For them, it doesn't matter what day is
it or what season. When we are sad, its our friends only who make us
comfort, and laugh with us when we are sad. They give us good advice, and we
can count on them to treat us nice. Friends solve our stupid problem and share
good time so that joy can become double.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Modern No. 20","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt;">One of the most
important yet least understood relationships are friendships. As one becomes an
adult, the demanding activities of life often take away from the time once
belonged to bonding to your closest buddies. However, friendships are crucial
to the sustaining healthy living. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Modern No. 20","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt;">There are several benefits
to friendships. Mayo Clinic describes some of the benefits as:<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Modern No. 20","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt;">Friends help you
celebrate good times and are your support system during the bad times<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Modern No. 20","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt;">Friends increase
your sense of belonging and purpose<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Modern No. 20","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt;">Friends boost your
happiness<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Modern No. 20","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt;">Friends can help
reduce stress<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Modern No. 20","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt;">Friends improve
your self worth<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Modern No. 20","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt;">They help you cope
with trauma <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Modern No. 20","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt;">They encourage you
to change or avoid unhealthy life styles<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Modern No. 20","serif";">When it comes to friendships the quality of friends
are much more important than the quantity. Some people prefer a large social
network while others prefer a small group of close friends and acquaintances. There</span><span style="border: none windowtext 1.0pt; font-family: "Modern No. 20","serif"; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-border-alt: none windowtext 0in; padding: 0in;">
are four different types of friendships: Work friendships, community friends,
acquaintances, and best friends. All serve a different role and are all equally
important in your life. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Modern No. 20","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt;">The Gallup
Organizations’s director, Tom Rath, undertook a massive study of friendship and
found some surprising statistics: i<span style="background: white;">f your best
friend eats healthily, you are five times more likely to have a healthy diet
yourself. Married people say friendship is more than five times as important as
physical intimacy within marriage. Those who say they have no real friends at
work have only a one in 12 chance of feeling engaged in their job. Conversely,
if you have a “best friend at work”, you are seven times more likely to feel
engaged in your job.</span><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Modern No. 20","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt;">Consider taking
the time to sit down and take audit of the people in your life and their
purpose. Reflect upon if you have healthy friendships and if you need to
eliminate toxic ones. Determine if you need to expand yourself to create more
relationships. True friendships require time and commitment, and sincerity. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Modern No. 20","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt;">British writer
Mark Vernon writes that a close friend is a mirror of your own self, someone
with whom you realize that, though autonomous, you are not alone. So although
you may be busy with the daily operations of your life, career, and family,
utilize time management to create and nurture the friends in your life. These
bonds you cultivate can enhance and save your life. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04959684197599754239noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2049568737692895450.post-24721218891272895472013-07-04T12:40:00.003-04:002013-07-04T12:40:38.371-04:00Are You Independent?<div class="MsoNormal" style="background-color: white; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt;">
<a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-n-m20PG-pqg/UdWlLfOO-1I/AAAAAAAAAHQ/SlzvCpXfjGM/s275/fourth+of+july.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-n-m20PG-pqg/UdWlLfOO-1I/AAAAAAAAAHQ/SlzvCpXfjGM/s275/fourth+of+july.jpg" /></a><span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Modern No. 20","serif"; font-size: 16.5pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-font-kerning: 18.0pt;">Happy 4th of
July - </span></div>
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<span style="color: #666666; font-family: "Modern No. 20","serif"; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Tips to Become Independent<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #666666; font-family: "Modern No. 20","serif"; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Written by: </span><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #666666; font-family: 'Modern No. 20', serif; font-size: 8.5pt;">-</span><a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/experts/mark-goulston-md-fapa" style="background-color: transparent;" title="View Bio"><span style="color: #666666; font-family: 'Modern No. 20', serif; font-size: 8.5pt;">Mark Goulston, M.D., F.A.P.A.</span></a><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #666666; font-family: 'Modern No. 20', serif; font-size: 8.5pt;"> </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 'Modern No. 20', serif; font-size: 10.5pt;">Fourth of July is a great time of year to ask yourself, how
independent are you? Are you Dependent, Pseudo-independent or Independent?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<b><span style="font-family: 'Modern No. 20', serif; font-size: 10.5pt;">Dependent:</span></b><span style="font-family: 'Modern No. 20', serif; font-size: 10.5pt;"> </span><span style="font-family: 'Modern No. 20', serif; font-size: 10.5pt;">You're needy. You lean on and on top of people. You try to get
other people to take on your problems as their responsibility to fix. You've
got the kiss of death with regard to personal and professional relationships.
You need to stand up and grow up.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<b><span style="font-family: 'Modern No. 20', serif; font-size: 10.5pt;">Pseudo-independent: </span></b><span style="font-family: 'Modern No. 20', serif; font-size: 10.5pt;">You act un-needy, but
you're really prideful, don't believe anyone else will do it right and don't
want to be beholding to anyone. You can't really do life without other people.
Your "empire" is no more than a glass menagerie, but as long as you
don't see it that way, it doesn't seem to matter to you that everyone else
does.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<b><span style="font-family: 'Modern No. 20', serif; font-size: 10.5pt;">Independent:</span></b><span style="font-family: 'Modern No. 20', serif; font-size: 10.5pt;"> </span><span style="font-family: 'Modern No. 20', serif; font-size: 10.5pt;">You are needful. You lean into people. You get input from others,
but keep your problems as your responsibility. You are mature enough to realize
that until you can be effectively interdependent, you can't be independent.<br />
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</b></span><b><span style="font-family: 'Modern No. 20', serif; font-size: 10.5pt;">How to Become Independent</span></b><span style="font-family: 'Modern No. 20', serif; font-size: 10.5pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 'Modern No. 20', serif; font-size: 10.5pt;">The measure of true independence is how self-reliant, resourceful
and coachable you are.<br />
I work with many successful CEO's, executives, senior managers to become even
more successful. Something they have in common and in spades are self-reliance,
resourcefulness and coachability.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<b><span style="font-family: 'Modern No. 20', serif; font-size: 10.5pt;">Self-reliance</span></b><span style="font-family: 'Modern No. 20', serif; font-size: 10.5pt;"> </span><span style="font-family: 'Modern No. 20', serif; font-size: 10.5pt;">means that their default mode is to be responsible and take on
increasing responsibility to further their companies, their</span><span style="font-family: 'Modern No. 20', serif; font-size: 10.5pt;"> </span><span style="font-family: 'Modern No. 20', serif; font-size: 10.5pt;"><a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/teamwork" title="Psychology Today looks at Teamwork"><span style="color: #333333; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;">teams</span></a>and their missions. They don't pass the
buck, make excuses or stay submerged in indecisiveness.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<b><span style="font-family: 'Modern No. 20', serif; font-size: 10.5pt;">Resourcefulness</span></b><span style="font-family: 'Modern No. 20', serif; font-size: 10.5pt;"> </span><span style="font-family: 'Modern No. 20', serif; font-size: 10.5pt;">means that they are clear about the resources they need to
accomplish their</span><span style="font-family: 'Modern No. 20', serif; font-size: 10.5pt;"> </span><a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/motivation" title="Psychology Today looks at Motivation"><span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Modern No. 20","serif"; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">goals</span></a><span style="font-family: 'Modern No. 20', serif; font-size: 10.5pt;"> </span><span style="font-family: 'Modern No. 20', serif; font-size: 10.5pt;">and are not hesitant in accessing those resources. They are also
reciprocators by</span><span style="font-family: 'Modern No. 20', serif; font-size: 10.5pt;"> </span><a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/environmental-psychology" title="Psychology Today looks at Environmental Psychology"><span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Modern No. 20","serif"; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">nature</span></a><span style="font-family: 'Modern No. 20', serif; font-size: 10.5pt;">, meaning they don't take others' effort for granted and give back
to those who help them out.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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others (even the greatest athletes have coaches their entire careers). In
realizing the value of such</span><span style="font-family: 'Modern No. 20', serif; font-size: 10.5pt;"> </span><a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/coaching" title="Psychology Today looks at Coaching"><span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Modern No. 20","serif"; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">coaching</span></a><span style="font-family: 'Modern No. 20', serif; font-size: 10.5pt;"> </span><span style="font-family: 'Modern No. 20', serif; font-size: 10.5pt;">they have learned to also be great coaches to their people. They
are NOT "know-it-alls," but are constantly seeking to know all of it
so they can make the best decisions.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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your children are, the better your and their lives. The less you and they are
of each of those (and the more you are overly dependent or act like
"know-it-alls"), the worse your and their lives and more miserable
you and they will be.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 'Modern No. 20', serif; font-size: 10.5pt;">Have a conversation with your kids about what being
independent means to them. After they answer it, ask them what they think about
about the notions of being self-reliant (translate it to being able to depend
on yourself), resourceful (translate it to being able to come up with solutions
and the best help for problems they may face) and coachable (translate it to
being able to find the best people to give them the best advice to help them do
whatever they want to do).<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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is the practice of turning your attention to a single point of reference. It
involves focusing on breathing or on a word known as a mantra. Meditation is
deceptively easy. It’s simply, training yourself to turn your attention away
from distracting thoughts and focus on the moment. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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are several benefits to meditating. Studies link meditation to reducing stress,
blood pressure, heart attacks, and strokes to increasing one’s cognition and
creativity. Additionally, meditation decreases our need for sleep by
heightening our concentration, allowing us to be more productive. Many believe
they have to spend several hours a day sitting in the lotus flower positive to
receive meditation benefits. You can achieve meditation benefits in as little
as 10 minutes. Here’s how: <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Modern No. 20","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt;">The
key to mediation is to be mindfully aware of your breathing. Ronald Alexander,
Ph.d recommends </span><span style="background-color: white; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial; font-family: 'Modern No. 20', serif; font-size: 12pt;">to do this you must breathe
in through your nose for a count of three, hold for three, and then out through
your mouth for three. The first step is to identify the negative emotion
you are feeling so as you focus on your breathing ask yourself, “What am I
experiencing?” Once you can answer this question with, “I am feeling<span class="apple-converted-space"> </span></span><a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/anger" title="Psychology Today looks at Anger"><span style="background: white; color: #333333; font-family: "Modern No. 20","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; text-decoration: none; text-underline: none;">anger</span></a><span style="background-color: white; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial; font-family: 'Modern No. 20', serif; font-size: 12pt;">, impatience, irritability, frustration or
even fear” after your next in breath when you hold for three replace that
unwholesome statement with a positive one. For example if you are
standing in a long line that is moving very slowly and feeling frustrated,
focus on your breathing and replace the frustration with, “I am feeling
compassion.” Keep repeating the breathing, hold and statement until you can
feel all the negative emotions release from your body and mind.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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you find that you are completely distracted. Your mind is running faster than
Olympic track meet. Don’t give up or get mad at yourself. </span><span style="font-family: "Modern No. 20","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt;">Meditation can
take practice, determination, and dedication. When you find yourself drifting
off into your thoughts going 90 miles per hour, simply return back to your
breathing. As a result, you can meditate anywhere, anytime. Just focus on your
breathing, prayer word, or mantra. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="background: white; color: #ff6666;">*Info in this
blog is strictly my personal and/or professional opinion. Posts and comments
are not intended to treat, diagnose or replace any medical advice you may have
received. Please contact your doctor or therapist if you feel you need help,
and in case of an emergency, dial 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.*</span><span style="background-color: white; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial; font-family: 'Modern No. 20', serif; font-size: 12pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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