Amazingly Awesome Things To Do If You Are Single On Valentine’s Day

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Single” is an opportunity to live life on your own terms and not apologize.” - Mandy Hale, The Single Woman: Life, Love, and a Dash of Sass

Every year Valentine’s Day comes around with great fanfare. The stores stock the shelves with candy, stuffed animals with hearts, and sappy love filled greeting cards. You are bombarded by television commercials of men giving jewelry to their mate and couples sharing romantic moments together.  Then there are those well-meaning friends who look at you with sadness when you tell them you will be single on Valentine’s Day.

All of a sudden your secretly coveted (by those in relationships) singlehood becomes something for which everyone pities you.  

Being single on Valentine’s Day is not a death sentence nor does it have to be depressing. The same reason you enjoyed being single before and after Valentine’s Day will still be valid on Valentine’s Day. Instead of focusing on the fact that you will not be coupled up on Valentine’s Day, take this day to show someone very special how much they are loved - you.

Here are some amazingly awesome things to do for yourself on Valentine’s Day

Send Yourself A Love Letter Or A Card
A few days before Valentine’s Day write yourself a love letter or buy a greeting card that speaks to you. In the love letter list all the things you love about you and what makes you such a special person and worthy to be loved. Put the love letter or card in the mail and mail it to yourself. When you come home on Valentine’s Day and find your love letter or greeting card waiting for you it will instantly brighten your day.
Mix And Mingle
If you have single friends hook up with them on Valentine’s Day and go somewhere fun. Go dancing, attend a play, or out to dinner. You will find that on Valentine’s Day many venues host events just for singles. You may even meet someone there who tickles your fancy. If you do, great! If you don’t, no big deal. The point is don’t think that just because you are single on Valentine’s Day that you have to stay at home feeling sorry for yourself and being ashamed that you are single. Being single can be liberating if you let it.
Treat Yourself
The great thing about being single on Valentine’s Day is that you don’t have to spend money on a gift for someone else hoping they like it. Instead you get to buy yourself something that you know you will like. If you see a stuffed teddy bear that you wish someone would buy you, then buy it for yourself. If you want to go to a certain restaurant, take yourself. Remember to enjoy your own company because no one knows or loves you like you.
There is nothing wrong with being single. Take your time finding someone with whom you want to couple. Life is too short to be unhappy just because you are trying to conform to societal norms by being in a relationship. While you are single take the time to better yourself, physically, emotionally, spiritually and financially. Being single gives you the freedom to pursue your passions without hesitation and to accomplish some major life milestones. Being single is awesome no matter the day of the year. When you are ready to be in a relationship you will be, until then, keep loving you.
*Info in this blog is strictly my personal and/or professional opinion. Posts and comments are not intended to treat, diagnose or replace any medical advice you may have received. Please contact your doctor or therapist if you feel you need help, and in case of an emergency, dial 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.* 

 

 

 

Creating a Healthy Relationship: What's Your Love Language

With Cupid looming in the air, many people are excited about the approach of Valentines Day. The chocolates, singing cards, jewelry, romantic getaways and other hoopla, it's hard to not get into the mood. Then, there are those who loathe and despise the Holiday. I heard one radio host say, "is this a holiday to make men spend all their money...I think everyone should break up before Valentines!"

I don't condone such an extreme, but I do suggest that one decides on what they consider to be a healthy relationship. In my opinion, that includes constant communication, appreciation for one another and dedication to withstand the tough times. Having a relationship that shows gratitude on a daily basis, rather than just on February 14, just may be able to calm some of the disdain for the Holiday.

I also recommend that couples learn their Love Language to help them with simple and practical ways to communicate their love to their partner. Many times, we are operating based upon what we want and not necessarily what our partner may want. For example, I may like receiving cards so I give my partner a card, however, he may like spending quality time, so he skims the card and offers a half hearted, "thanks". What happens? I may feel angry or even hurt because my card isn't appreciated. I operated based off my language and not that of my partner. I heard a minister say to use the "platinum rule"-treat others how they want to be treated!

The 5 Love Languages-created by Gary Chapman- are: words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. I recently even heard of a sixth one which is romantic gestures. I suggest you learn your love language. There are many websites that allow you to print and score your test with the hopes of creating lasting loving relationships. Even if you're not in a relationship, it won't hurt to learn how to express and receive love.

If you believe you may be operating from past hurts or from childhood messages about love, talking to a trained professional may be able to help you effectively love and truly feel loved in return. Remember to leave your comments and have a wonderful day of appreciation and gratitude!

*Info in this blog is strictly my personal and/or professional opinion. Posts and comments are not intended to treat, diagnose or replace any medical advice you may have received. Please contact your doctor or therapist if you feel you need help, and in case of an emergency, dial 911.*