The English dictionary defines paralysis as “loss of voluntary movement as a result of damage to nerve or muscle function” and “failure to take action or make progress”. People often think of physical paralysis when they hear the word paralyzed. But this can take place emotionally as well. As individuals, we may have been hurt emotionally. Hurt due to rejection, abandonment, lack of emotional support, criticism, abuse, etc. This causes emotional damage, which can result in lack of progress in our lives.
Ever wonder
why sometimes women are so bitter/cold towards each other? Why some women, even
teenage girls often say they prefer male friendships over female? Or why some men have difficulty committing in
relationships? It’s easier to distance ourselves or remain detached than to
risk being hurt again. Anger is sometimes used as a shield to protect us from
feeling vulnerable. When an individual
has difficulty forming meaningful relationships, there may be an underlying
fear. It is scary to consider exposing your true feelings and risk experiencing
that hurt again. So in turn, we become emotionally paralyzed, stagnant, and
fearful of experiencing more hurt or damage. But, to remain in this emotional
state prevents us from growing.
As a result,
we also risk loosing the possibility of forming a loving, meaningful
relationship. We risk loosing the possibility of receiving love, loving others,
and loving ourselves. And there is no greater feeling than the feeling that you
are loved. This holiday season, take the necessary steps to release any fear
that may be hindering you from accepting love or loving others.
