Amazingly Awesome Things To Do If You Are Single On Valentine’s Day

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Single” is an opportunity to live life on your own terms and not apologize.” - Mandy Hale, The Single Woman: Life, Love, and a Dash of Sass

Every year Valentine’s Day comes around with great fanfare. The stores stock the shelves with candy, stuffed animals with hearts, and sappy love filled greeting cards. You are bombarded by television commercials of men giving jewelry to their mate and couples sharing romantic moments together.  Then there are those well-meaning friends who look at you with sadness when you tell them you will be single on Valentine’s Day.

All of a sudden your secretly coveted (by those in relationships) singlehood becomes something for which everyone pities you.  

Being single on Valentine’s Day is not a death sentence nor does it have to be depressing. The same reason you enjoyed being single before and after Valentine’s Day will still be valid on Valentine’s Day. Instead of focusing on the fact that you will not be coupled up on Valentine’s Day, take this day to show someone very special how much they are loved - you.

Here are some amazingly awesome things to do for yourself on Valentine’s Day

Send Yourself A Love Letter Or A Card
A few days before Valentine’s Day write yourself a love letter or buy a greeting card that speaks to you. In the love letter list all the things you love about you and what makes you such a special person and worthy to be loved. Put the love letter or card in the mail and mail it to yourself. When you come home on Valentine’s Day and find your love letter or greeting card waiting for you it will instantly brighten your day.
Mix And Mingle
If you have single friends hook up with them on Valentine’s Day and go somewhere fun. Go dancing, attend a play, or out to dinner. You will find that on Valentine’s Day many venues host events just for singles. You may even meet someone there who tickles your fancy. If you do, great! If you don’t, no big deal. The point is don’t think that just because you are single on Valentine’s Day that you have to stay at home feeling sorry for yourself and being ashamed that you are single. Being single can be liberating if you let it.
Treat Yourself
The great thing about being single on Valentine’s Day is that you don’t have to spend money on a gift for someone else hoping they like it. Instead you get to buy yourself something that you know you will like. If you see a stuffed teddy bear that you wish someone would buy you, then buy it for yourself. If you want to go to a certain restaurant, take yourself. Remember to enjoy your own company because no one knows or loves you like you.
There is nothing wrong with being single. Take your time finding someone with whom you want to couple. Life is too short to be unhappy just because you are trying to conform to societal norms by being in a relationship. While you are single take the time to better yourself, physically, emotionally, spiritually and financially. Being single gives you the freedom to pursue your passions without hesitation and to accomplish some major life milestones. Being single is awesome no matter the day of the year. When you are ready to be in a relationship you will be, until then, keep loving you.
*Info in this blog is strictly my personal and/or professional opinion. Posts and comments are not intended to treat, diagnose or replace any medical advice you may have received. Please contact your doctor or therapist if you feel you need help, and in case of an emergency, dial 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.* 

 

 

 

How To Stop Agonizing And Conquer Your Goals

“Dare to dream! If you did not have the capability to make your wildest wishes come true, your mind would not have the capacity to conjure such ideas in the first place. There is no limitation on what you can potentially achieve, except for the limitation you choose to impose on your own imagination. What you believe to be possible will always come to pass - to the extent that you deem it possible. It really is as simple as that.” -  Anthon St. Maarten

This is the final edition to my month long blog series about setting goals using the S.M.A.R.T. method. I hope you have not only learned from my post but actually committed to making your goals SMART.

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In today’s post I will be going over the last letter in the S.M.A.R.T. goals method. At the end of this post I will provide an example of a goal in its completion using this method.

 

I would love for you to share your SMART goal with me by leaving a comment below.

I have enjoyed teaching about goal setting this month. While teaching you I also taught myself more about crafting my goals better so that I will achieve them.

Has it done the same for you?

Let’s begin crafting the last portion of your S.M.A.R.T. goals, Time-Bound.

Don’t forget your S.M.A.R.T. goals worksheet.

Time-Bound

This portion of goal setting refers to setting your goals in a time frame giving them a sense of urgency. By setting a specific date on which your goals should be achieved you do not let life get in the way of achieving your goals. In my last blog post I gave in my example how to set a specific date for completing your goals.

 

Bad Example: I am going to lose 20lbs this year.

Good Example: I am going to lose 20lbs by this year. I will be starting my diet on May 1, 2016 and I will have lost 20lbs by August 12, 2016.   

By setting a specific date you begin to subconsciously place more value and importance on this goal because you have given yourself a deadline.

I have completed explaining how to craft your goals using the S.M.A.R.T. goal setting method.

Have you understood how to implement this new strategy of goal setting?

I will now give you one last example using all five letters of the S.M.A.R.T. goal.

Bad Example: I want to lose 20lbs pounds this year so I can fit into my bikini this summer when I go to the beach.

 
Good Example: Starting on January 1, 2016 I am going to start my diet so that I will lose 20lbs in order to fit into a bikini when I go the Bahamas. I can just envision myself walking along the beach with no self-doubt, fear or shame. I will be confident once again in my own body and my self-awareness will improve. I will begin my diet by changing my eating habits following the Weight Watchers diet plan. I will start walking three times a week for at least 30 minutes and toning twice a week for 15 minutes each session doing upper body one day and lower body the next day. I will have lost 20lbs by May 23, 2016 and I will be able to fit into my size 8 bikini.

 

See the difference in the two examples?

 

The first example is just a vague statement and when reading it doesn’t invoke any excitement, urgency or importance. In the next example however, you have a vision of how your life will be when you lose 20lbs and you have an executable plan of action to follow.

As I bring this blog post to a close I want to thank you for reading.

I cannot say enough how I hope you not only got value out of this but also that you implement the strategies that you have learned.

Leave me a comment below and tell me your thoughts. I would love to hear your feedback.

 

P.S. Subscribe to my blog post so you won’t miss next month’s subject. In honor of Valentine’s Day all month long I will be discussing love and relationship. In one of my post I will be revealing how to use a certain type of sex method to build a stronger spiritual bond with your partner. Subscribe now to find out what it is, next month.

 

Creating a Healthy Relationship: What's Your Love Language

With Cupid looming in the air, many people are excited about the approach of Valentines Day. The chocolates, singing cards, jewelry, romantic getaways and other hoopla, it's hard to not get into the mood. Then, there are those who loathe and despise the Holiday. I heard one radio host say, "is this a holiday to make men spend all their money...I think everyone should break up before Valentines!"

I don't condone such an extreme, but I do suggest that one decides on what they consider to be a healthy relationship. In my opinion, that includes constant communication, appreciation for one another and dedication to withstand the tough times. Having a relationship that shows gratitude on a daily basis, rather than just on February 14, just may be able to calm some of the disdain for the Holiday.

I also recommend that couples learn their Love Language to help them with simple and practical ways to communicate their love to their partner. Many times, we are operating based upon what we want and not necessarily what our partner may want. For example, I may like receiving cards so I give my partner a card, however, he may like spending quality time, so he skims the card and offers a half hearted, "thanks". What happens? I may feel angry or even hurt because my card isn't appreciated. I operated based off my language and not that of my partner. I heard a minister say to use the "platinum rule"-treat others how they want to be treated!

The 5 Love Languages-created by Gary Chapman- are: words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. I recently even heard of a sixth one which is romantic gestures. I suggest you learn your love language. There are many websites that allow you to print and score your test with the hopes of creating lasting loving relationships. Even if you're not in a relationship, it won't hurt to learn how to express and receive love.

If you believe you may be operating from past hurts or from childhood messages about love, talking to a trained professional may be able to help you effectively love and truly feel loved in return. Remember to leave your comments and have a wonderful day of appreciation and gratitude!

*Info in this blog is strictly my personal and/or professional opinion. Posts and comments are not intended to treat, diagnose or replace any medical advice you may have received. Please contact your doctor or therapist if you feel you need help, and in case of an emergency, dial 911.*